“They” (I can hear my father now – “WHO IS THEY” ) say that one should not make “big” decisions for at least a year after some major event – birth of a child, marriage, divorce, death of a loved one, major change in circumstances – losing a job – starting a new job, stock market crashes – identity theft, and certainly while under the influence of mood altering medications.

Some choices do have to be made under the trying conditions created by major changes – be those change good or bad = sorrowful or joyful.

Still I have come to believe while maybe one should not actively implement those decisions if there is “time” to consider, one should make a note of what might a moment of unusual clarity for what really matters and how best to get there – preferably without burning too many bridges in case of a need to retreat.

Besides, some constructive “What If” thinking can often lead one down interesting lines of thought.